If a GAL program is doing stuff that makes me happy or meets my needs, I can tell you straight off the bat that that would include hooking up with a few women friends with benefits. Distracting and sublimating my sexual energy into other activities is not going to work.
Well this is EXACTLY what I asked you earlier, when I asked if you wanted permission to cheat. You ignored the question.
Anyhow, when my h was in residency, my needs were not met. We're talking 4 years and med school hadn't been a picnic either. Still, I knew from before how great it could be. But at that time with such a long road ahead, I almost had an A.
By the grace of God, I sought out c and saw a chaplain and thought it all out and stopped it from going that direction.
BUT I am a passionate romantic person. I need romance and passion in my life. and I happen to like performing. So For ME, GAl included doing theater.
B/c the challenge was/is to find a way to meet your needs within the m.
I found that having passionate roles, romantic roles, DRAMATIC roles, and really getting into it big time, helped me a lot.
It met a lot of the needs I wanted met in the m, but found a positive way to channel this. It has worked better than you might expect.
imagine if you had a make out scene with a woman you later marry IN THE PLAY? Sexy & romantic but safe?
You get a pass b/c it's acting!...you are not cheating but you get the romance/touching you so lack. (& No one could argue you were being inauthentic! You might win an acting award..."gee his hunger for her sure seemed real...")
Just a thought. My kids were freaked when they saw it the first few times...especially my son. But my h seemed to feel that "as long as I came home for dinner, he didn't care where I got my appetite."
What do you think about YAH's approach/results?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
