Who knows what she wants? She probably isn't even sure herself at this time. You have to give it time; no one changes overnight. That means you and your W. So, you have to take it slow, and don't scare her off again. Sure as heck you think you know what she is thinking, then you find out different. So, just don't try . Maybe she missed the friendly contact with you.
Every time you start to think that okay, things are going the way I want them to, she is talking to me more; sounds very friendly and chatty, stop, take a breath, and remember this is only beginning. You have the time to get yourself together, do your GAL activities, keep up with AA meetings. Just be careful when you are talking to her, not to sound needy, or talk R talk all the time. Don't pressure her, let her come to the decision to R herself. You concentrate on you. Take time to get together with friends, and maybe miss a call from her now and again. And, unless it's an emergency, let her call back again. Try not to be available whenever she beckons.
As for the wishing to just "be me", you are right, you DO need to just be you, find out who you are; who is the REAL you?? The guy you were before you and your W met? The one she fell in live with? I know you are more mature since then, but deep down, we all have that part of us that tells us who we really are.
. Maybe she missed the friendly contact with you.