I tried working real hard to create a very positive post D scenario. It didn't always work, but it sure got me through some tough times. Also it gave me the strength to make the changes I really needed to make.
Woke up yesterday morning and immediately thought of W; wondered if she was waking up alone in her bed or with the OM. Not healthy, I know; but it was something I could not fight. I also became angry at the fact I was left with the house full of needed repairs and renovations while she is living in a brand new condo with no maintenance issues at all.
No, it's not healthy. Although you already know it doesn't help you one bit to think about this, this thoughts are very natural. What your W is doing is tons more unhealthy than these thoughts you're having.
I'm glad the Travellers had something going on this weekend. Maybe jbnati will just show up for one of their appearances as a GAL'ing activity.
It's your birthday, TM??? Well, I hope you have a great SPECIAL day! Please treat yourself to something nice and indulgent today! I also wish for you your best year yet, and despite all that is going on in your life, it CAN happen!
I'm sorry you had a tough weekend. Start visualizing that big, red STOP sign when you imagine those two together. Besides, I'd be willing to bet that things aren't as rosy as you have imagined. Either way, that situation is not worth your time.
Thanks, everyone, for the BD wishes. Funny...sort of...received a Happy Birthday from XW #1, but not a peep from STBXW #2. Not that I was expecting anything...
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
My BD passed a couple days ago as well. Got a card and a gift from my son...cheeky as I know it was her but oh well. I have given my W cards from both myself and my son, and until she says to stop, I don't plan on it.
I hope your day goes well regardless. We're here for you man!
Happy Bday, Tele. Use this date as a marker to gauge your forward progress - you have come very far and will move much further ahead this year. The road is long, but you will make it. I hope you enjoy your day.
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
If I'd have known, I'd have bought you a stop sign for a gift.