MLC Only lasted 1 month? It seems unlikely....

[Willing1]

Ct, Thank you for your support and for sharing your experience. It truly helps!

Saturday morning we got up, shared coffee together in the back porch and my W declared she wanted to be in the R and that she was committed to us. She says she has no desire to be anywhere else or with anyone else. Of course, I am delighted. She said the fog seems to have lifted.

As easy as it is to call this crisis over, I know better. Even if my W is in a good place, I still have growing to do. One of the threads I read said, "Put yourself in the other person's place and imagine going through that portion of the day where you are in it with them". "if you were them, would you want to be with that spouse"? I got to thinking about what is it that my W sees when she looks at me? Am I really working at being a more mature, fun to be with, adventurous, etc.... person?

So, no matter what happens with us, I have work to do. I am very hopeful that we are doing better. I have changed quite a bit about me already and about the way I treat her and interact with her but there is more change needed. This is a lifetime deal and I see that now. I guess it is time to read some more, journal a little, confirm the next counseling session, and get outside to enjoy the nice weather we are having today. What a difference a day can make!

Willing1