Jack - I do appreciate the words of encouragement. Seems as though it's easier on the nerves hearing it from an outside source.
I am continuing with my research on my wife's journey and I find that the wording people and/or authors use makes it easier to see where certain cases apply. My W had mentioned to me that she was depressed/angry. I've read some stuff where MLC can be slowly brought on as a woman has trouble coping with "sagging" and greying. I do see that in my W. She's in great shape for 40, but seems to refuse to see it because she's not "toned". We've also grown apart over the last 3 years because I got so involved with trying to succeed in a new job, although the third year it's because she went into full bore MLC mode.
I don't know how to reconnect with her. That's my sticking point. I'm missing something.
I have my own life that I live and don't pester her or shy away from her as though I'm scared of her. For a few months now I've felt as though I have my backbone again, but that's not all that I need to succeed. Something's still missing.
She's reliving her 20's and I can see it's not working out for her, but she refuses to accept 'life'. I know there's something I can do, I really believe it but my moment hasn't presented itself yet.
This would be much easier if she was more reflective and less dependent on social interaction. It's hard to see the truth of your current reality when your hanging out with people that condone your behavior.
It frustrates me that she wants to have our oldest son see a therapist for anger issues, but she refuses to see that she might need one as well. I see the anger issues directly related to him being scared and confused by his mother sleeping in the living room and going out almost every night. But that's okay, it's all my fault, just ask my W she'll tell ya.
