It's your birthday, TM??? Well, I hope you have a great SPECIAL day! Please treat yourself to something nice and indulgent today! I also wish for you your best year yet, and despite all that is going on in your life, it CAN happen!
I'm sorry you had a tough weekend. Start visualizing that big, red STOP sign when you imagine those two together. Besides, I'd be willing to bet that things aren't as rosy as you have imagined. Either way, that situation is not worth your time.