The thing is, your fears will not change if you do find out there is another person. Don't waste your money on a PI, just assume that there is someone else and deal with it.
It's hard, very very hard. We all get this. We're all basically in the same boat. Hiring a PI will not change anything about how your feeling right now.
I think what is most important right now is for you to focus on your fears of being alone. YOU are the ONLY thing you can control, so stop obsessing over something you cannot change. See a therapist, a pastor, someone. Work on you.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤