Are there any midlife women who want daily sex?

[25yearsmlc]

I won't argue with a couple not having sex if they BOTH are fine with it...who would? To each his own, etc. But you took it to mean that one was being denied it...interesting.

Just find it very hard to believe there are enough men who are happy with sex so infrequently that the AVERAGE marital sex is only once per week.

But when my h is tired from working 30 hours on his feet in an operating room,
I think it's b/c he's tired and his libido is lower! ( I know He's not getting a "no" from me,)
so what I'm saying is that you are interpreting the "only once a week" as meaning that all the men want it more, and the w's are keeping the number low. AND, I don't think so.

OK, I believe you. Still don't quite understand that from a man's point of view though, but I accept the fact that men are not all the same. Sure, tired from working 30 hours, but that's nowhere near a week? And being tired makes me want sex even more sometimes, as it's both a stress reliever and relaxing.



SSM
if my h were on his feet monitoring a patient, which is physically/mentally demanding, for 30 hours

and yet wanted to make love, I'd say yes. But theres no way he won't be exerting himself... At least not if I'm participating!

maybe later it's "relaxing" and relieves stress...but not then.

And when he says he's tired, he seems to need to sleep. We're pretty open about our moods and neither of us take it too personally if one is not up to it. (But recently b/c of his reserves, we are apart 3 days a week and so maybe we make up for that later?)

Read SSM chapter on this site. It covers a lot of your questions and basically says that many men with normal/high sex drives, can and do get distracted and stressed and fatigued by things.

But making love takes energy and time if they are going to feel good about satisfying their wives. The quickies are not time consuming but they can be frustrating for the w's.

While "Servicing" themselves is easier for men, I'm sure, it's not always what those men want.

But MWD's main point is mine...no one cares if you both are fine with having no sex, a little sex or a lot.

But MWD posits that pretending it's not important to one spouse, when it IS,

deprives the m of a vital aspect. It ends a lot of m's. Causes lots of A's.

You know, there's no one here, including me, that is saying it's wrong of you to

take care of your own needs and not be "with" your w sexually,

if that's okay with YOU both. And It has been so far.

Has something changed?


Maybe partly explains why I sometimes drove my wife nuts.