Got an apology from XH. Need advice now.

[AJM]

One of the great disservices we do to people in western religion is not tell them the whole thing. We paint a picture of "if you do this, then you will get that." Kind of like using God as a vending machine, right?

That never works.

There was a paper I read once that mentioned that eastern culture has no concept of MLC. They reasoned that was because of how they accept things differently.

In both easter and western religions, nobody should ever fear. That's a common concept around the world. Fear is the enemy no matter how you slice it. Really, FUD - fear, uncertainty and doubt. It's how people have controlled others in warfare and politics for generations.

It seems to me that you are coming to terms with what is, vs. what you thought or wanted. That is HUGE! You are learning to be at peace in a world that may seem uncertain at times, but you have hit on a major growth path with that mentality and approach. You are putting into practice the idea of living without fear. Of living in a way that you deal with what is and not what you want to see. In essence, you are taking off the rose colored (coloured?) glasses and seeing that life is great even without them.

I applaud that. I think when it comes growth, you are really on the right path. We may disagree at some point about religious differences (I am a Christian and eastern religion is a vastly different focus) but we will always agree that FUD has no place in our lives. When we remove that FUD, we live the life we were meant to live. With the freedom to see it for what it really is and how great and wonderous life can be.

Be at peace. You are learning a great skill and while you are early on that path, just know that you do not want to ever get off that path. At least, I don't recommend that you ever get off it.



AJ