Are there any midlife women who want daily sex?

[25yearsmlc]

ssm

you wrote:


I just heard a statistic from some national survey that about 20% of married couples in the US have sex less than 10 times a year, or something like that, and that the actual national average is sex only once a week for married couples. From which I would surmise the average husband is masturbating more often than he is having sex with his wife. Or is my math off?

I think your math is off AND the statistics need context. 20% of marriages only have sex 10 times a year

may include seniors who cannot have sex much, physically,

AND moreover, it does not say that "one wants it and one doesn't".

I won't argue with a couple not having sex if they BOTH are fine with it...who would? To each his own, etc. But you took it to mean that one was being denied it...interesting.

As for how often h's take care of their own needs, I can't answer for men.

But when my h is tired from working 30 hours on his feet in an operating room,
I think it's b/c he's tired and his libido is lower! ( I know He's not getting a "no" from me,)
so what I'm saying is that you are interpreting the "only once a week" as meaning that all the men want it more, and the w's are keeping the number low. AND, I don't think so.

My h has said "no" to me, at least as often as I've said no to him. In his residency, the drop in our sex life (4 years) was almost all due to him.

Sometimes I took it personally, but usually I threw myself into an activity (for me, theater was a way to have passion in my life that was safely channelled, when h was simply too busy or tired, and it helped me a lot).

So if our numbers drop to once a week (and after the birth of our 2nd child with my full time job, and his in med school) the numbers did drop,

but that was temporary and situational. Not a life time habit.
I think--

Couples surveyed ought to be asked their ages, their children's ages, their work status, how each partner handles "rejection" if it is delivered as that, and then ask if they are both fine with the frequency.

Those are the things that really matter.