Got an apology from XH. Need advice now.

[AntoniaB]

Brookie: Brooklyn.

Oh I know, good riddance. Obviously that set of friends is just fair-weather. They were all guys--that might have something to do with it--but for the one who actually I forgot is married to the guy who isn't there, the couple in Germany. Yeah I was supposed to officiate at their wedding....and of course I wasn't there...and OW was.

Our status is that a month ago we talked when the hurricane hit and he expressed concern for my house and pets. After that I was cordial to him on an email where he talked about work--I said some supportive things--that seemed to trigger his guilt--and he wrote me this apology of sorts that was better than past apologies but still not really a "real" apology. To that I just replied that I accepted his apology and that I was happier as an individual than I'd ever been and was finding a lot of contentment and my life was good.

Since then, he's just sort of opened the floodgates from time to time with being "his old self" with me but of course, he's with OW. His pattern is to email when something comes in the mail that has my name on it or whatever, and then write about that, the subject line will relate to that, and then he'll tag on other stuff, like what he did this weekend, or he'll start complaining about his job. He sent it at 3:30--and that would be when he'd get home. We always got home between 3 and 4 from that festival on a Sunday.

I just checked OW's theater schedule--she's in a play at 3pm. So...he got home...he's alone. He emails me.

I think he misses me. HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

He's in so deep, he wouldn't think this was cruel. He'd just say "well you said you were happy" and "you accepted my apology."

Honestly the pattern seems to be that when she isn't around, he finds reasons to sporadically email--the emails always come when he's in his free period at work which probably doesn't coincide with hers, or when she is performing in some show.