Got an apology from XH. Need advice now.

[AntoniaB]

Wow. Got a short email from XH today. If you're following the story of our sporadic contact, the last I heard from him he sent two different very chatty emails telling me about his trip to Europe this summer (we never left the tri-state area in 23 years but he took OW to Europe) and he acted as if he was there alone when he told me about the trip. After the second email that mentioned that stuff, I just didn't bother writing back. It's just too f-ed up for words ;-)

So that was maybe 12 days ago. I just now got an email telling me that he got a thing in the mail for AAA that had both our names on it still. Then he said "but I think you told me you already have your own acct. so I just told them to cancel the renewal" (maybe he has a new car? I don't know why else he wouldn't need AAA anymore as his car was in worse shape than mine). So anyway, a total non-reason to email, really.

But here's the weirdness. He told me "so this wkend was the music festival...but only X and Y people went because Z and his girlfriend are in Germany. Enjoy!!"

???

Ok the "music festival": he and I when married went to this every year for like 15 years with the same group of friends. When he was cheating on me last year, he went with the group and took OW--and I asked the guy organizing it--"Z" above, who's in Germany now--to tell him that OW couldn't go. "Z"'s idea was to orchestrate the trip so that I could go for the first 24 hours and then my cheating husband (not even filed for divorce at the time, mind you) who was keeping his rel. secret otherwise, would show up day 2 with OW there. Why? Because "Z", guy I'd known as long as XH, didn't have the stones to say that XH was out of line for expecting that OW had the right to be on this trip with MY group of long-time friends. I told "Z" that if he didn't have any respect for me, enough to say to XH look, just chill and let Antonia have this one last trip with us, that my friendship with "Z" was over. My friendship with "Z" is now over.

AND...the other people in that group, X and Y that he mentioned above, have never contacted me or returned emails since XH betrayed me. That group is "dead" to me. They could have supported BOTH me and XH but they chose to just not deal with the hard person to deal with--the betrayed one. So fine. We're done.

NOW, I ask you, Why the F is my XH emailing me today, in the middle of the music fest that was a tradition for all of us for 15 years, to tell me who is there? AND, ending his email with "ENJOY!"

???

What should I do? My instinct is to rattle off a "these people are dead to me, why are you telling me this," but then usually I stop with my instinct, pull back, and just do nothing...i.e. don't get caught up in his drama and ignore him.

What do you think? Is my XH turning into Brookie's XH?? ;-)