I don't know if you have posted a thread elsewhere, but my first suggestion is what DG said.
Read the Divorce Busting books or Div Remedy book. NOW b/c the approach you are taking towards your marital problems isn't what this site is about.
THIS SITE is about the simple but radical concept that we can improve our marriages by doing more of what helps the r, and less/none of what hurts it.
Even though the underlying causes, and our marital histories, and childhood issues and family issuse ALL matter,
THIS SITE is about what to do NOW to make it better.
So please read the books.
Second, as DG said, why would your pastor tell you to leave your h? I have never heard of that unless there is violence or booze/drugs. (Maybe adultery too).
Is there something you are leaving out? I mean, why would he tell you that?
Do you think HE (the pastor) is into you?
Regradless, read the books and you'll get this site more, and we'll be able to help you better.
Such things as "180s" (doing the opposite of what he complains about)
and GAL is Getting A Life --both of which are key concepts for Divorce Busting to work.
Keep at it. This stuff does help YOU, and often it helps the marriage too.
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
