Wasting away my youth

[aeolianchaos]

my husband won't even touch me. I don't even bother anymore. I've talked to him to death. I've tried the outfits. I've tried being sweet and flirty to no avail.

Why do you think he won't touch you?

Am I to live a completely sexless life? Hell to no I'm not.

If you don't want to live a sexless life, you really shouldn't have to.

How can I not? He says he's scared I will look elsewhere and I think to myself well duh!!! Of course I am going to! I need to feel young. I need to feel sexy. I need to feel desireable!

So he isn't psychotic. His fear is very reasonable given whats happening in your marriage and that you feel like you will inevitably cheat.

You say that you need to feel young, sexy, desirable. Are these feelings something that only comes from another person's validation?

What happens if you feel that way for yourself?

I just got weight loss medication the other day and I'm starting my journey tomorrow and let me tell you its ON. I can't take this anymore at all.

Would you say that you are currently overweight?

Does your weight in any way pertain to your need for others to make you feel desirable?

I'm a sexual being who needs to feel wanted. And I'm not getting that from my husband no matter what I do.

Do you believe he is asexual?

Is it possible there are other things going on in his mind that are keeping him from experiencing desire?