Wii, you're not divorced yet, are you? Perhaps, you need to finish that R completely before dating again. Just a thought. I was shocked to read how your WAW reacted to your pain ... quite a reverse to her normal self.
I think when I get to the dating stage, I'm going to learn by everyones mistakes here. I'll just hang out in groups. Just have friends, and then see what happens. I find that worked for me in my twenties, so it should work still. I am not too desperate to fall in love again. Yes, it would be nice to have the companionship of someone of the opposite sex, but in a group, one could have the companionship of lots of people. That's my theory. It's still to be tried.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim