I worry that your biggest problem of fear and conflict avoidance, REMAINS UNCHANGED---
Originally Posted By: tadpole1025
It is better, but I suppose it is still there to a degree. I just am trying to be so careful not to p!ss her off in any way.
Tad, I have to tell you that just the LBS breathing is enough to p!ss the MLCer off at times. Remember their anger is directed at the LBS. It doesn't matter what happens, it's the LBS's fault. She could get a hangnail and somehow it will be your fault.
Can I ask why you fear making her angry? You're facing the worst that she can do. Remember that she will portray herself as the victim throughout. What she perceives is her reality.
I know you don't want a D. The best you can do if it gets to that point is to go in there and face it with honor and dignity. Hard stuff, prepare for it ahead of time by going over in your mind how you want to handle yourself.
The D is the legal stamp on what in reality was a dead marriage when your W walked out the door. That said, if you find it your heart to continue standing while moving forward in your life, and you and your wife find your way back to each other, through the trials you've endured and the lessons you've learned you now have the tools in which to build a brand new R with her built on a solid foundation.
Never forget what this has taught you whether it's with her or someone new.
None of this is easy, but I think that what comes easy is not taken as seriously or valued as much. We now know better so we can do better.
