But that's what happens when they go through a MLC. Change everything, clothes, hair, behaviors, A's sometimes, the car they drive. He seems to be a classic case of a MLC. He is still H under the MLC somewhere. If you loved him before, then feel sympathy for the man he is during this. He isn't himself now, an alien has taken over. Eventually he will come out of it, but who knows when? I hope your L can find an alternative to filing for D, since I know you hate that like I do. Look it up online for your state, and tell your L what you find. He has to do what you want, I think.
My H has come out of the tunnel. I sometimes see a bit of the MLC that could be lingering in him when he says or does something mean, but most of the time, he is if not always nice, then decent. We fuss sometimes, but no name calling at all anymore. He also doesn't seem to remember some of the things he said or did during the MLC years , which is weird.
My S is really enjoying college. He got his first test back and had a 92 on it. He drives there about 20 miles each way, which makes me nervous, but he is a good driver.
Don't worry about your H's tattoos and biker beard, he wants to look cool and recapture something he thinks is lost; probably his youth. My father had tattoos all down his arm from the Navy, and I still remember them. I thought he was cool. Have you spoken anymore to your H? How is your MIL? I hope she is getting better. Are you going to visit her? If you are in N.J., I once dated a guy from Mendham.
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