HELP! Tried the 180/Last Resort & Failed - PART 2

[25yearsmlc]

"when is God bringing justice" to whom? You? Your ex P? OW?

what are you asking for, them to get the plague? Or you Winning the lottery?

hey it's not God's doing that got you here. A man wronged you. You allowed it.

Man has free will, and so do you.

You stayed with a man who never married you, and you didn't prepare yourself financially for life on your own.

You saved little money and owned no joint assets - so you were willingly as vulnerable as possible, for a long time.

(You think those were God's choices for you?)

But you found the strength and intelligence and resources to learn fast! (There HE is) And you got yourself a car! And a job!

But don't blame God for not fixing ex bf for you, OR for the choices your ex bf made and is making.

God isn't in charge of your life or happiness- you are.

And if you want justice, or what's fair...HEY talk to Africa....

As for your ex bf, I would probably tell him that you are not interested in being his friend b/c honestly it's a joke. He tells himself another lie so he can sleep at night.

Friends don't do what he did to you. Maybe toss in that you wonder how he lives with himself--

oh wait, I know how, he takes polls of people whom he pays, to tell him that he owes you nothing...

but YOU ought to end the needless suffering his contacts bring you.


Besides, if there's a chance for a recon down the road, it's going to be awhile AND

the actual risk of losing you has not occurred to him.

(why would it? Sorry but I had to ask...)

This belief he has that you'd take him back no matter what he does/says, or how long he takes (and I'm not sure he's wrong)

that belief just prolongs his explorations of the R with OW & 'playing house" without the hassle or responsibility of actually BEING a father.

So how do YOU rid him of it? At DBing we accept we don't have the secret info or answers to make someone feel something...

but we are pretty good at knowing what does not work. You enable him and

The least you can do is not enable him to feel noble about how he's treated you.

Stop the needless contacts and most if not all, are needless. Either ignore his messages

or outright tell him that your healing from what he did and his contacts slow that down.

(and he knows what he did, no matter what lies he tells himself)

As for his R w/OW...You know, the best "revenge" or JUSTICE that will come of this, is

YOU, LIVING A LIFE WELL...


THey've only been a "family" for a month? Don't bet on them being a "family" this time next year.

OMG- His excitement and pride that he'd be "allowed" to sit for a kid sounds pathetic.

I'd trust a 12 y/o to do that. I have!


And if we are all wrong and this r w/OW works out the way he hopes and everyone in that house is happy and fulfilled-then I guess it's good he found out now.

But that still leaves you in the lurch.

Alone (can we change that screen name soon-To one w/ a little more PMA?)

Why didn't you ever tell your bf what an awfully cold SOB he was to you? I never understood why you didn't speak up for yourself more.


DBing does not say to be a doormat.

And hey, Don't sell yourself short.

You've made an amazing amount of progress. Keep at it.

((( )))