Treading water - time and patience

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Boy was I wrong - Happy Anniversary to me.

There was I thinking everything was going better...

Get the 4x2's out....

I got W a card some flowers and voucher for a local spa - and left them out for her when she came home last night.
I fell asleep and know she came home after 3:00am.

Woke up this morning and went to play golf - when I get back she's a little distant with me.

No thank you or anything for the gifts - I'm like what's up, she says we need to talk.

What's the problem - she's finding it hard us living together and sharing a bed, she wants me to move out for "a while" and see how it goes. She says she doesn't love me and doesn't know if she ever will, that she's been forcing herself to show me affection.

I lost it - told her she was being selfish, that she's not thinking of the girls, that I am a good father and a good husband and that I deserve better, we have a wonderful family and a wonderful home and lifestyle and she's willing to throw it all away.

She says she can't "force herself" to be in this situation and that she's uncomfortable, and her therapist is suggesting it as an option.

So she goes to IC to break the marraige and we go to MC to try to resurrect the marraige.

I stormed out and am staying at a friend's house - I was supposed to look after the girls tonight but was too upset to hang around, she ended up calling her mum (I'm ashamed that I allowed that to happen).

I'll be here for a few nights until I can figure out my next steps are. I can only stay at my friend's place for a week at the most. Either I go back to the home and refuse to move out or find my own place, I certainly don't want to do the latter - but who wants to live with someone who doesn't want them there!