Wife Says I fill her with hate when she sees me

[aeolianchaos]

Calidad,

What happens if she doesn't 'wake up' from what you think is her 'daze'?

Is it possible that there is something very real in her that is leading her to have the affair?

No one put a gun to her head and made her do what she is doing. This is true.

You don't have to live with this if you don't want to - certainly its a viable option to not do anything to support her choice. That is your choice.

Forcing another choice on her, however, is probably not going to get you what you want.