That's not what it's about (and I shortened my speech significantly). My therapist who is a follower of Michelle and a leader in her own right felt this was the beyond the last resort action needed - if there's anything left in her soul then she might get jarred awake. Just because I played a part in the affair doesn't give her the right to continue it and to flaunt it - that's just cruel.
But it is not right or moral to openly have an affair while you are living together as a family. She needs to choose - the affair or the family. If she chooses the affair and D, and comes back after her heart gets broken, I would gladly and compassionately consider making ammends. I still do love her deeply but this is just where we are - there is no other course left.
