How much of that do you think is going to register after "I want you to know that I have been absolutely devastated by your affair and I have been going through a very deep process of self-reflection and change." ?
Have you changed much about yourself?
Hard for people to resist things that aren't directed at them.
Easy for people to resist stuff that people "tell them."
cal
I'm sorry for your pain b/c I know it's real and stinks.
But in the above post, you madee a long ass speech that you don't really mean, b/c
then you undermine all the claims of change w/your actions... b/c what you really really want us to say and what you are going to do anyhow
is take the easier route. The inward journey of reflection & self discovery route you began, was simply too hard a road for you to stay on...
Isn't it just easier to SAY you don't "want" a divorce,
and then go ahead and get a divorce,
blame her for an affair (which you know you played a part in)
and move on?
isn't this kind of what you've been waiting for?
I mean, Painful as it is, it's easier than doing the really gut wrenching work, for months, isn't it?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
