My wife is out of town for a wedding (I'll be going up later today) and was gone last night to prepare. Normally, even pre-bomb, I wouldn't bother her unless there was an emergency of some sort. Last night our S6 had a fever of 102.5, nothing emergent, and so I posted about it and hating having sick kids on FB. Later, about 1:30 am I heard a car door shut (since I'm sleeping in the playroom right above the cars) and looked out to see a couple of guys dressed all in black trying to open our van. I snuck outside and chased them down, brought them back to the house, and chewed their butts out. They were early 20's, well educated from the way they were speaking, and out playing some stupid prank game trying to steal stuff from peoples cars.
I told them to get out of my neighborhood and never come back, or it would be very bad for them. They were scared, and apologized and took off. I couldn't sleep and posted about that on FB as well. Again, nothing emergent so I didn't contact my W.
W calls me this morning furious that I didn't call or text her about these events. I mentioned that I didn't want to disturb her, and that I wasn't intentionally trying to keep anything from her. She reveals that she is angry because she read about it on FB this morning instead of hearing about it from me. She asked if I would be upset if the reverse were true. I said probably and apologized again. We said goodbye and that was that.
So now she's pissed, and I'm going to go up to the wedding she's in in a few hours. I'm not quite sure how to proceed. I can see her point of view, because if it were her I'd have come home in an instant. However, I was going to call her this morning after she'd had a chance to get up and around and tell her about last night. Though I mentioned that on the phone, she seemed doubtful, and at the least still upset that FB told her first.
I was planning on just letting it go unless she brings it up, but I can't help feeling like I messed up somehow. Good intentions turned into something that really upset her; seems to be the story of the last few years with us. It is so difficult to know what will and won't upset her. If I'd called or texted, in my mind, she'd have been upset and maybe wanted to come home. Other times, it could feel like I was being bothersome over something she had no control over.
There was no decision not to call her (regarding the guys), I really just was tired and adrenaline crashing. I didn't think about it until I was already half asleep an hour later, and at that point just drifted off to sleep. I did what I did, but in her eyes it was the wrong thing to do.
