JAS my sit is a lot similar to yours. My H doesn't seem to be responding to detaching as well as he does with me being affectionate. As a matter of fact, I have trying to really detach this week and last night he told me that he wanted me out of the house. When I opened up to him, he opened up to me and we were intimate and he kissed me goodbye this morning when he left for work. It is so confusing to deal with him right now.
I did go to the library yesterday and picked up DR, LL, and Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. I read Men are from Mars years ago but I'm reading it again as a refresher.
