W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[GAL Man]

If you feel she is pulling you down you need some distance, so you can sort your stuff out.

Look at 3 contact types to see which is best for you.

Dim, dark or n/c

Have a look here to see if this helps explain

midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_contact-levels_dim-and-dark.html

I think you need to go dark, not to gain a reaction but to build some strength and to help detatch.

Detatching is hard, bloody hard and time and going dark will help. Only initiate contact over S2 or urgent stuff, then keep the conversation "professional"

Also GAL will help.

Next, what you need to do is analyse you

what wonderful traits did you gave you you two first met

what's changed over time

what are W issues

What do you not like about you

Then do some 180's

Have a long think over these then come back to us so we can help.

But, again the first thing you need to do is gain some calm in you

Acting from emotions is not good for your situation.

Remember, you can do loads to make things worse, but very little to make things better.

We need to concentrate on you first. If your not in a good place you can not expect your M to get there.