I thought about sending her a text after she left that said: "Do you think sometime soon we can sit down and really talk about us?"
That's a big NO-NO right?
Tad, really? Do you like getting hit with 2 X 4s? How many different ways can we keep saying the same thing to you? You've been at this long enough now that you know better than to even think about doing this, much less asking about it. Why do you keep thinking that any peek out of the tunnel from your W is an open invitation to pursue?
You will definitely know when/if your W emerges from the tunnel.
25 is right. Go back and read over your threads. It's clear that your progress was made when you focused on yourself. Your W moved closer when you pulled back.
Can I ask if you have a boundary that if your W goes through with the D that that's it for you? That you will stop standing? That's OK if it is, your choice. There are MLCer's that have to have a D to complete their journey. It is still the early days for your W. We've told you many times that most MLC's are measured in years, not months.
There is nothing to say that a piece of paper has to destroy all hope. You can have hope no matter what happens. It is your choice whether to have it or not. You can carry your hope and move forward with your life. Moving forward is different from moving on.
You keep saying that you don't think your W notices your changes. This tells me your changes are to try to win her back, not for yourself. If you are truly on your way to becoming the best Tad you can be, who cares whether she notices or not. If she doesn't wake up and see them, someone else down the road sure will. They're for you.
What's new with you? You've been at your job for a while now. How's that going? What have you been doing to GAL? How are your boys doing, aside from their R with their Mom? What kind of activities are they involved in?
It's your turn, Tad. Your W has made her choice for now, maybe for good. Let her go and concentrate on yourself and your kids.
We're here walking with you...as Brookie says, keep steppin.
