Are there any midlife women who want daily sex?

[25yearsmlc]

I finally told her I feared she would lose her h, b/c I had not heard of any happy couples not having sex, by unilateral choice.

you said:
Well, there certainly are couples where both are happily in agreement not to have sex. But I'm sure that's not the norm.


but you missed the point-the word "unilateral"...I don't think there are happily married couples wherein one of them unilaterally chooses to deny the other one, important sex and physical intimacy.

And it's definitely not the "norm" to call a couple happy, when one wants sex often and the other never "allows" it...that ain't happy...

That is one person giving up an important part of themselves permanently...and not even getting an explanation of loving concern.

You said Quote:
She claimed she was happier just going straight to intercourse after some brief kissing. I think that was to avoid all the touching that she never allowed.


Okay...you said this before. She told you she did not like to be touched in certain places, that happen to be sensitive places. So, ever wonder why?

I mean those are pleasure centers so it's physically odd to not want to be touched there BUT they can easily be mishandled or groped or roughly treated...

look, I don't want you to be the jerk here, but she's not here and she's not all at fault AND

I'm tired of the circular talk...how "Stuck" you have been with your "gift" of sexual frustration and what she "allowed"/"refused to try", etc...
What is it that you want to know?

You also said:

But even in retrospect, how could I have made it better when she refused all sexual touching aside from straight missionary intercourse? And I could
certainly perform that as well and as long as she wanted.



IDK what to say here.

You "enjoy" your sexual frustration -you call it a gift.

So A part of me feels as if You almost revel in this discussion re your "high libido and how it never wavers" ever-(while admitting, obviously, this ability is not exactly "tested" outside a certain context)

but "she wouldn't allow" your love making skills to please her...

hey- you keep avoiding the real issue.

"However long you can go", or "perform as well as she wished"...

if your w refuses to give herself to you, you have a decision to make.

IF having sex with HER is that important to you (and I'm not sure it is, frankly) then

Why are you here & What do you want to do?

How can we help?