Stillness

[Finah]

I like your thought process.  I don't see anything wrong with it, it's logical.
 
I think what you risk....to me it's so early, a great deal of time has not passed.
 
But I think what you are getting at is right.  What would that friendship look like?  Would it always be perhaps someone wanting just a bit more than the other?
 
I suspect that if she never does come out and say OM is out of the picture than assume he still is.  Maybe she will hint at it in future conversations.
 
Fusion going on.....perhaps.  Reflected sense of self.....maybe.
 
I think she is unsure, b/c well you are unsure too. 
 
Why have you let her back in?
 
I guess I look at it like this.  There is nothing worse than a spouse betraying another spouse, just isn't, it's the worst thing you could do to someone besides perhaps severe emotional and physical abuse, regardless of what you did to her.
 
But alas life is not fair.  Let's assume that you two build a friendship, but she never totally understands what "she" inflicted on you.  Meaning she never truly stood back and examined her true self.  Can you live with that?  I couldn't, not worth the pain, it may weaken to a dull, but it will still hurt a bit.
 
Though lets say you took a different approach.  You let this back and forth continue.  It may be going somewhere, we don't know, it's hard to tell.  To me you have every right to say " W I understand you would like to communicate with me, but I am not sure right now, I think we just need time......." or something like that, but in your words.
 
Now how will she perceive that?  You aren't saying you can't be friends, You aren't saying I'll never talk to you again.
 
Will she just up and leave and never talk to you again, no, but then again she has all ready left you what worse could possibly happen. 
 
Why won't she.....she doesn't know how.  It could be a need, a want, fusion.
 
There needs to be a consequence for her, in my eyes, for all WW.
 
Your friendship should be earned not given out. 
 
So you could let this back and forth continue, you could try a harder approach, or perhaps an in between approach. 
 
As in don't be so available, be more upbeat, don't let the convo carry on so long, let her wonder what you are up to.
 
For instance I don't know who started your last convo. But a quick place to end it and be "mysterious" would have been as soon as she inquired about your place and where it was "in her own little way".  You could of easily said " If you want the address let me know, got to run, I got such and such to do for my new place!!."
 
You aren't hiding anything, your upbeat, your busy, you have stuff to do she isn't priority 1. 
 
And if she would have said " Yeah I'd like to know where or where did you move to " easily come back with " No problem, hey you can send me my first post card to my new place when I get all moved in."
 
I am almost sure she would have bit on that.  B/c she all ready got you a post card previously.  Now what does that say.
 
Again your busy she isn't priority 1, but you still care, she is important you still value her.
 
There are so many ways you can take this. 
 
The important thing is to let her do most of the leg work and she is, which to me is promising.
 
Just be careful.  It's always funny how the power eventually shifts to the BS.