W is moving out.....life goes on...

[In_Shock]

thanks mod. That's why i notified you! Don't wanna get into any trouble here!

[jbnati]

IS - I am very glad you are enjoying your S right now. I can understand the anxiety creeping in as Friday gets closer. You still have a couple more days, so concentrate on that for now. Continue to enjoy your S. One day at a time now.

I think a lot of us here understand the emotional connection doesn't just happen all the time. It's something we have to work at. A lot here also have spouses that feel the emotional connection just happens without effort.

[Luckyclover]

IS - Yes, the emotional fusion thing certainly hits home! O_O

As for everything your W has said about "you're not my friend, I don't have a best friend" blah blah blah.... are you sure my H and your W aren't the same person? Holy cow.. it's the very same thing he said to me. (I know, I know... standard WAS talk.)

[25yearsmlc]

Shockmary,

(my new name for you)

I thought the fusion piece was provocative. Process that some more. It's rare that something totally fits but pieces...yes.

As for her coming home-learn from this week that time away from her can be FINE...

unless she totally wants to hurt you AND S4, she won't yank him away totally so you will have those nights with him again...and no stomach aches...


I'm SO hoping you can go to Philly in November on that trip. (IF you do, I may fly out just to support you!)

Hang in there, you are already doing well. And when she returns, NO R TALK...

let her get some L assistance...(you too!)

I almost can't wait til she learns of and figures out the financials of this "wordless effortless connection."

I wonder, Does it work with money too? If so, God, I want in on that!!


((( )))

[In_Shock]

LOL @ 25 -- I'll address more of that soon!

Just wanted to post quickly --- my MIL was completely RUDE to me this am..... I'll give details, but I tried DBing her. It seemed to calm her down. REALLY REALLY STRESSED....S4 is sick -- W is returning after 5 day trip later - and now MIL is on my behind over NOTHING.

More to come. Please keep me in your thoughts. Especially little man. He had a really high fever last night and didn't sleep well at all. Dr. appointment in an hour.

[jbnati]

I'll give details, but I tried DBing her. It seemed to calm her down. REALLY REALLY STRESSED.

Well, I think DB'ing your MIL is a positive. Good practice. I'm sorry she's treating you that way, though.

Hope your S feels better. At least you were able to spend a lot of time with him while he was feeling well. Glad you're taking him to the Dr. Just out of curiosity, I wonder how your W is going to handle these types of situations when she has your S?

When you W comes, it's an opportunity to act "as if". Act "as if" she had a good trip and she's happy to see you. Re-read this part in DR if you need to.

[25yearsmlc]

and focus on s4 and his illness. Our d14 has a weird habit of HIGH ass fevers and my h is an MD


she had a 105.2", which h did not believe b/c d14 (then 12) was just saying she felt hot and her "skin itched" and she had a headache... H figured the thermometer was off b/c no way wouldn't she complain more or act delirious. Apparently THIS child of ours (unlike her older dramatic siblings)

is understated when it comes to pain/discomfort.

(OMG- If it were her brother (s25) he'd be reading the Phys Desk Ref and diagnosing his own headache due to a possible brain tumor or an "intra-cranial bleed" etc)

So I bought two more expensive thermometers and came home@ 11pm.

H retested all of 3 thermometers on her and us, and her temp was 105.5F verified/confirmed...

we cooled her off and gave meds and it got lower...but WTH?

The pediatrician said "she gets high fevers"...

(I swear to God that was his "diagnosis" which, guess what, WE KNEW!!)

But high fevers are scary and CAN be bad news.

the good news it that your concern will show and it matters to the little guy AND w and probably mil.

Make this ALL about him as if you did not notice mil's rudeness. Besides, you two have history which you mistakenly thought was "all fixed" and it's sooo NOT... and she's likely been going over her "grievance list" about you which you don't know about- OR control, so let it go...

Trust me, you have pissed her off before and that's that. All you can do is go "from this day forward" and say nothing about OW or w or the R or blah blah blah....

Being the best PARENT you can be right now is your only job today.


((( )))

[In_Shock]

WOW 25 -- his temp wasn't that high. That's insane. Hubby a doc, you L. Is your last name Huxtable (LOL).

Just got a minute but S is MUCH better tonight. On antibiotics for sinus infection = allergies are terrible in my region right now. I'm coughing my head off myself. It's the Ohio Valley Gunk they call it here. *gives a clue where I am too*

W came home about 2 hours ago.....DISTANT....Kind of nasty really. I'm DBing the hell out of her. She calmed down a little and played with S and I. It was SO much easier in some ways when she was gone this week. Now I'm forced to deal with the fact that she doesn't want to be with me full in my face - again.

But she's not been texting tonight. That's interesting. Likely OW is out somewhere and can't - they're waiting until later - or who knows? Mind reading -- STOP SIGN!!!

Got much more I want to post but no time. Hope all of you have a relaxing, peaceful weekend and GAL~~

25 -- btw, if I do get to go to the EE in November, I will be expecting to meet you there

[In_Shock]

thanks jb. I'm acting as if-- definitely. She is being COLD and I'm being nice.

Yes, S and I had a great time this week. It was really peaceful. He's a wonderful little guy. I love him with all my heart. He's really the one that matters in all this sh!thole the W has dumped us in. I hope I can be half as insprational for him as u are for your S.

[Luckyclover]

More power to you IS! Sounds like you're DBing like a champ - even through the stress. I hear ya... about the stress.