I don't invite her anger. I'm relieved when I don't have to communicate with her. I don't know how to proceed. Do I agree to mediation or stand firm? Standing pi$$es her off. She claims she doesn't want to be mad anymore, but she can't help it. For this I feel sorry for her. She is blinded by it.
Selfishly, I am angry she won't attend in counseling, but I'm most upset about her putting her affair before her kids. She would rather have OM than investigate the possibility of a future as a family. I give her no promises. Would just love to have an honest conversation about what happened. Perhaps we'd be equally challenged about each of our influences on the M.
No 'never' and 'always' are absolutes. Agreed. Just letting history get in the way.
