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[25yearsmlc]

I know I was stupid with the three affairs, I regret that every day.

What do you regret? Forgiving him? Not really addressing them? Just sweeping it under a rug? What's the regret about? and how is your sex life with him (minus the recent developments?) You seem to suggest it's NOT very good b/c you say "ml if you can call it that"...so what gives there?

He may have a sexual addiction (which CAN be a euphemism for serial cheaters)
but you may have a sexual problem or inhibition that's a turn off for him.

Is it a combo? You do have 6 kids...


But things had gotten so much better for the past few years


How so? And what does an online sex "A" mean about that? Does it negate all good memories?

and now wham this and

I dont know if it was the stress of the move or what but I just dont think I can take this anymore.

"Take what", specifically? What is it that so bothers you about THIS, given that 3 affairs were not cause to leave? I'm curious and think it's important. Are you saying that it's simply the last straw even though by comparison it's puny?

Are you possibly still angry about the A's and never resolved them so you are using this as an excuse to bolt the m?


Financially I can't issue an ultimatum as of right now I am a SAHM with 6 kids ages 16-2.

Then DO NOT issue one. Have you read the DB books? Do so again asap.

Ultimatums are only issued when you are REALLY ready for any answer, knowing that it's NOT likely to be the one you hope for...



Am I right in thinking that he is never going to change?

Doing the same thing over & over but expecting a different result is the definition of insanity. Since I don't know what you two DID to resolve his prior affairs, I can't say if he'll change. I CAN say I doubt he views online r's the same as a PA....and I'll go out on a limb and submit that most men probably don't equate the two. Though it would definitely anger and concern and hurt me if my h did it, it would NOT be as bad as a real PA...just speaking for me...

I feel so guilty for believing in him and hoping for my forever family but it was a fantasy.

Why would you feel guilty about that? ^^^ What does this sentence mean?


thanks for the response I need(ed) someone to help me sort this out and not make me feel like a total loser for giving up. I admit my stupidlity and blindness and will not let it happen again

so are you giving up? What won't you "let happen again"?

Learn to identify what you have control over and what you don't. Let go of what you don't control...


As for porn and viewing it while ML.... there are other dimensions to this I'm not privy to b/c you imply the ML isn't very good anyhow.

IF it were otherwise satisfying for both of you, then MAYBE you could say-

"I don't care where he gets the appetite, as long as he comes home for dinner."

Since I'm guessing sex isn't too hot for you guys right now, I'd ask why that is. And what he's willing to do about it (and you)


What do you want now? What does he SAY he wants?


I'm not big on saying "give up" so you won't hear that from me.

But no one else is feeling your pain right now. And I don't believe in saving m's at all costs...

I'm just confused why THIS specific act or virtual act, is such a deal breaker when three....3 affairs weren't

and what you thought would change by you guys relocating.