I have been on this forum for a while and DBing saved my marriage. I went through 3 PA's with my H and keep standing. These last few years have been pretty good and we seem to have been settling into our 13 year marriage.
At the beginning of the year due to financial reasons we moved from Florida to Iowa for a very good job for H. It seems like things would still be good bc we are basically starting over from everything we have known. We have no one here- except my mom that moved with us bc she is disabled. It seems like this would draw us closer bc we have to rely on each other for support. Well, for those who dont know my story my H had 3 PA's and Lord knows what I dont know about and he claimed he had isses with sexual addiction or thought he did but only spoke with our pastor a few times about it. I recently found a secret email he left the sticky note with the info on it on top of our armoire. I thought here we go again and logged on and found out he had been checking into sites with other couples, you know like swinger sites, I have NO interest in thsi whatsoever but he made it sound like he and I had all this interest in finding another couple. He actually spoke through email with some of them and had them send him pics. well I also found some chick that had sent him personal pic of herself and asked him what he thought about her being in a bikini contest and he replied back to he that he wanted more pics and contact info and she sent more pics and he went back and forth with her about enjoying her looks etc... I confronted him and he just bawsically said I was making a mountain out of a molehill bc he wasnt actually cheating???!!! HELP what should I do now with thsi. I mean we have 6 kids and so many years I want a divorce now bc I dont know what else he is hiding but what???? HELP
Me:37 H:38 6 kids first bomb 8/05 (ow involved) piecing 7/06 second bomb 3/07 ow involved wash rinse repeat.... huge move to start over 2/11 more affairs H left for good 8/12
