ROMB, I wish I had better advice on how to handle the Santa thing. I think the best thing is if you and your H can coordinate something for the sake of your D. Broken families and Christmas don't mix too well. I grew up with it, and I literally had the 12 days of Christmas by the time I got together with all of the family fragments I needed to get together with.
Originally Posted By: realormakebeliev
We had a R talk yesterday, kind of unavoidable but I again failed at DBing. He says he has a lot of fear about us getting back together, and doesn't explain why or what would make it better. Also doesn't want to see a MC. I am so frustrated, since he apparently wants to 'date', but can't even commit to the holidays?
You can't control what he does or doesn't do. Don't try to rush things along, either. Remember, it's a marathon, not a sprint. If he wants to date, set appropriate boundaries to protect yourself and your emotions around and take it as a small positive.
Originally Posted By: realormakebeliev
On top of everything, I still don't know what to do about my living situation. The thought of trying to find/pay for/move into a new place, yet another transition for my D, makes me want to throw up. Especially since she keeps asking me why we can't go home.
Keep your options open. Find out what all the options are, too.
