I was DB'ing but just discovered an affair

[NTX_Dad]

NSD, I think you should go out with friend's family and have a good time, despite the way your W's reacting. However, I don't know if this was your original intent, but your W should not be part of this dinner IMHO.

Your W, although she desperately needs help, is not going to take advice from you right now, regardless of how you frame it. But I think she pretty much told you that based on your last conversation, huh?

Yes sir, you are correct, she more or less said that earlier this week.

I thought since we "had" to have a dinner together as a family, that it was natural to just combine both events. I thought everyone would have a good time all the way around.

My W has bailed but I wouldn't be surprised if she told me just before dinner that she's coming if she's cooled down by then.

I am a slight bit nervous for the friends. I don't want them to get sucked up into this vortex, and I admit it may seem strange to the W that we are communicating. But the truth of the matter is they are nice people and THEY reached out to me.

I'll go and enjoy myself and refrain from talking about our sitch.

Have a four way with onion for me this weekend, followed by some Graeters.