MTS, I am thinking the letter will say what you want to say down to the part of "For all of the above, I ask for your forgiveness." I think she knows everything after that and/or it doesn't need to be said. I think those things are just putting it back in her face, so to speak, and will likely backfire.
Just MVHO.
You may want to go over your bullet list, too, and re-order it terms of what is a priority for her. If there's some things on there that are low priority, get rid of them.
Keep your expectations in check. If you don't think it's going to say anything you need to say, don't send the letter. Again, JMVHO.
