jb - it was partially the 'nati part of your name, but also you mentioned Kings Island and the Bengals.
Oh, and took my S some Skyline Chili yesterday for lunch at school. BTW, Skyline was on national TV on ESPN last night during the UC-NCSU game.
But I digress...
Originally Posted By: NTXSadDad
We tried to calm her down and eventually I got her out of there and we ended up having a GREAT evening at the house. She was very affectionate this morning and gave me several hugs. I think she enjoyed being back at the house for one night and perhaps my strong, steady, upbeat demeanor helped as well.
Hmmmm...sounds familiar. I think our kids tend to be influence by the parent they're with. My MC told me even before the bomb my S was likely imitating my W. So - I think this is a great opportunity for you. I think there's a lot to be said for your strong, steady, and upbeat attitude. It sounds like you're allowing to permeate the surface, which is the right way to do it. This gives you the opportunity to allow your D to be influenced by your changes, and it will SHOW your W these changes. It's very likely your D is not getting this influence from your W right now.
Originally Posted By: lc4
You have handled the situation PERFECTLY up to this point! Now it is important that you do NOT throw this back in your wife's face. She saw and heard what your daughter was expressing, so you don't need to point it out to her. In fact, I wouldn't bring it up at all. Just keep being positive and upbeat and supportive for your daughter. Let your wife feel the guilt from this on her own. If she does open up to you about it saying she feels bad or whatever, don't give her the ol' "I told you so" lines. Just listen to her.
I agree with lc4 here. Your W is probably already feeling the guilt, and I'm sure it cuts deeper than you know. All you need to do is sit back and let it ride. Just listen to your W if she brings it up. Teach your D to DB.
Ugh! I just HATE what this does to our kids! 