My IC suggested that I bring it up to him at some point, so I did. He seems to think that it would make H stop and think, if only for a second. I need to see a lawyer. What H is offering ,financially, is unacceptable. I have got to protect myself and the kids here. I do not plan to actually seek a job until the L advises me one way or the other. At the same time though, not getting a job may be perceived as me digging my heels in. That would no doubt tick H off. His goal right now seems to be to get this over with as quickly as possible.
understood...so here's what MY MC said at the time, which aligned totally with my l's advice (yes I hired a l. I'd never represent myself in this emotionally charged stuff PLUS it's easier to blame the Ls and keep the ugliest stuff separated mentally at least, from us...
The L said "work LESS or not at all" til it's settled.
The MC was also a family t and said, since h was gone, "the last thing your kids need now is to lose the remaining parent to a job"...
made sense to me.
Hang in there but don't corner your h too much if you kwim. Some ICs are not really familiar with DBing and you MAY have to make a choice between competing approaches.
Most of our mc's told me h was "acting like a single man" which didn't help me much.
It validated what I thought...but what do you do with that?
I needed better ways of relating to him. DB helped with that so
what are YOUR 180s and GAL? Super important...KEY really, to making it through this to the other side...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
