You know I already think the letter is over kill. Like all your other texts and messages, it's to get a reaction from her of some sort or to influence results...even as you pretend the opposite.
It's also not even written by you, so it sounded canned. It is absolutely pursuit, sent under a thin veneer of noble sounding rhetoric.
When you tell someone who has already left you that are "releasing" them, it sounds as if You are "giving" her something you don't have to give; ie, permission to leave you. Sorry MTS, I guess I just don't get it.
Does your db coach know of all the prior contacts/pursuits of yours and the end results?
But anyhow, If YOU NEED to send it, so be it. Just Be honest about your goal/hopes for it.
As for but sending her a birthday wish/text/note, wow, that is just more of the same from you.
DB 101 do something new. (6 weeks without contact is nothing to them.)
She is too busy exploring her new found freedom and meeting OMs to worry about you, partly
b/c she knows you are still waiting for her, your "One and only" love -- which is still the same old MTS...
Why would she hurry back to you, when she risks nothing by still exploring OMs?
but if you send her nothing, when you have such "a good excuse for contact",
THEN
you will show her a CHANGE in you, and a quiet disciplined strength she has yet to see from you in this whole ordeal. This is an opportunity to show her you are NOT doing the exact same stuff over and over...
Let her go on her "mission" of greener grass seeking...but please do not send her a birthday wish of any sort.
YOU need to be so GAL and moving on that it simply didn't occur to you, or seem appropriate....
b/c you are not her friend. You are her soon to be ex h. She's divorcing you.
Those are tough facts to face but they are facts, not hopes or fears or gray areas.
Send nothing to her.
For now, the more you pursue (and of course its pursuit, ) the more you push her away.
I'd think this would be clear to you by now. NO offense meant MTS, b/c I'll stand by you no matter what you choose.
But to ME, this is a no brainer.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
