Wife Says I fill her with hate when she sees me

[aeolianchaos]

Actually I was thinking the whole discussion of 'nice guy syndrome' is extraneous. Words only go so far.

Tell her how you feel - sure. But leave it at that. No need to go into too much details. Unless there is another message you are trying to convey?

Have you spoken with a L yet? If you are going to take this path, you probably should know what to expect before you start.