Are there any midlife women who want daily sex?

[25yearsmlc]

Cyrena and 25yearsmlc,

I'd like to better understand your view of women with low libido. You both seem to imply that it's most likely due to issues in her marriage. But then how do you explain women who are in marriages where both partners are happy having no sex, even though those marriages might have been sexual earlier? Surely you wouldn't claim that those women are happily avoiding sex only because of issues in their marriages? Why is it the husband's interest in sex that determines if a woman's lack of sex is due to issues in her marriage?


Fair enough SSM, fair enough. First, let me say that I have to ponder my answer more fully so what I say here is just off the top of my head. I DO want to give your question justice though...

Okay here's what I have so far...the difference in the above scenario is that the parties agreed.

In your sitch, you say your w KNOWS sex is important to you but she denies you this. So to me that's a big fat difference. TO ME, it doesn't seem loving.

If she's really screwy about sex, she needs to work on it. But saying "low libido" on her end and YET her h still loves sex SO THEY HAVE NONE...

sorry but I've truly experienced low libido, and I still had sex with my h. For him mostly. B/C HE wanted/needed it. That was enough of a reason and I'm not heroic.



The way I see it at this point is that I'm in a marriage where my wife has become the type of woman who is happy with no sex, while I haven't been able to make that change. I don't see that there is necessarily anything wrong with either of us, nor that there are issues in our marriage aside from issues generated directly from our difference in desire for sex.

TO your way of thinking then, it's kind of all up to you?

OR

there is something else. She doesn't truly GET that you need/want this...'

or she simply does not care enough that you do.

You tell me what that means...