That really blows about the mortgage but there are usually roadblocks put up for a reason. You said your income is probably too low to qualify, right. Can you imagine if you got the approval and then found out your expenses were going to be far too high but you were trapped in the house? It could be a blessing.
Ok, on to your xh. He brought that woman by again? You are sure that she wasn't in his life prior to the D? Keep in mind that men typically do not do well without a woman on their arm. They seem to feel like they're less of a man if they don't show the world their ability to have procreation partners. I'm not saying that is what is going on, but even if it is.....is it really your business? You are divorced. You are both free agents. Just because you haven't moved on doesn't mean he shouldn't. It stinks that he's in that close proximity so you have it in your face.
Have you considered asking him, out of consideration for your feelings, if he would please have his dates away from the house? You made this agreement to live like this but if it is hurting you, you have the right to ask. Again, that doesn't mean he will capitualate. It needs to be asked in the right tone of voice and the right time also.
I'm not the best one to help you with the whole detatchment thing. I wasn't ever able to detach fully.
I hope you find a way through this that you can both live with. It will only be harder and harder on you and your kids if you can't.
Take care of you first, everyone else second.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
