NEED ADVICE

[gunny]

stunned,
4 years active duty with MARFORES,, 1 year active with 6th mtbn 2003-2004, the rest assorted Reserve units, Allentown PA Red Bank, NJ etc, etc, 2531. And you?

The advice is good. Have been trying my best to follow it. Originally when she told me on June 20th, she was going to stay around until March 12 when our lease on our condo ran out. But, foolishly, the night before my trip down to florida to pick my mother up, I wrote her a very apologetic letter in which I took responsibility for my part in our troubles, and asked her to commit to going to MC with me. Up until then I had been following DB pretty closely and things were going pretty smoothly. When I came back from the trip, she had left me a letter in which she said that staying until march was no longer an option, that she was now going to move at the end of October, and that she was sorry things were working out this way but it was time for us to move on.

Of course, this really shook me up, and while my mother was visiting, she moved in with a friend of ours whose place was vacant. Well, my mom is back in florida, and my w is back living in our condo until oct 28th, when she is scheduled to leave. She gave her notice the other day at work, she has worked there for 19 years, so I know she is serious about moving on. I know there is nothing I can do, and am resgined to starting my life over. I just wish she would give us another chance, that she could find forgivness in her heart, maybe she will, maybe she wont.

You are right about her telling me what the issues are, and she is aware that I have taken steps to remedy them,
1. mother visiting every summer for four weeks, cut down to two, possibly none because of physical limitations on her part.
2. Lack of intimacy, working on that with therapist and Divorce Support Group.
3. Not having fun when we do stuff, partially true, but I think she is just being negative now.
As always, thanks for listening, SF MAC