I have to agree with Jack--any friend who has discussed it, any experience I've had, of periods of low/no sex, it has not been that these women PLANNED, consciously or not, to marry someone who they thought they could be sexless with. It was always a reaction to how they felt about other issues in the marriage. And to say "this is just the way some women are" is not convincing, without hearing from the women themselves.
AMEN...I'd love to have a chat with your w (I know that's not going to happen but I wish it could)
to hear her views. I don't know ANY women born with low sex drives.
I DO know some women who don't' have high libido NOW, but each of those women are in marriages with troubles, or past issues that led to it.
I agree that there are damaged women (abuse victims) but that's something you'd know going into the m.
Developing a sexless m, not okay. It's a vital part of the m and you are only allowed to have it with her, and she denies you this...for 14 YEARS?
Like Jack3 says, DB 101--***Do something different**
14 years...as much as I've needed/given forgiveness in my m, I truly think THAT would be dealbreaker for me (Unless h physically could not, of course--that's a "sickness/health" vow)
But 14 years of choosing not to have sexual intimacy with me? That would feel a lot like 14 YEARS of rejection to me.
So Tea, honestly, how important is it to You?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
