I am hoping your code red is over too. My h dropped the bomb and here I am almost 3 months later....and he seems to be having a change of heart anout leaving. I try to keep my hopes neutral because mlc is unpredictable. What he says one day may change in a few days. He cries often and talks about how he wants to be free and fights guilt.
It has been sooo hard because I found out quickly that i cant fix this. I feel somewhat powerless.
The only thing helping me is prayer and coming here to read through threads.
I agree with Antonia, to be on your guard a bit. It took me a month 1/2 before i finally found out there was an ow he at work he had been pursuing. She left the country for 6 months. He made plans to chase her in emails, divorce me before she came back to the states. Then he found out recently ow does not reciprocate his feelings. He had a huge fantasy built up of her.
I was totally blind sided by this. Now that i look back...all the signs of a ow were right there plain as day. I just did not see it.
