Alternatives to "I'm sorry you feel that way."

[Truegritter]

IMO wordsmithing is pointless.

The old "I am sorry you feel that way."

Is meant to validate but probably doesn't if you repeat it often.

But

It is also meant to avoid talking about R issues when it is not time to do so.

That time being when your spouse is raw and hurting. (unless you want non productive communication)

So say something that is non confrontational and non passive aggressive.

Passive aggressive?

Statements that are intentionally sharp while not seeming so.

There is a neutral response IMO in every situation and if you can't think of how best to do it then just STFU.

Unless your goal is to actually make your Spouse react to you or force a decision.

That should not be done in the heat of the moment or with hidden agendas.