don't worry - I seem to need to hear it over and over my friend!
Had kind of a crappy day at work. I got really upset with 2 of our musicians (leaders in our orchestra)on Monday. Their behavior at auditions was like watching a bunch of 8th graders. intolerable. but I have learned the hard way that when I get emotional, I need to step away, then the next day with a clear head I sent an email letting them both know that I will not tolerate thier behavior anymore.
the chit hit the fan. They contacted thier orchestra representative that is a one of my board of directors and he had one of our Board memebers come to the office and talk to me that they felt I was harsh with them.
Thank God the Board member that came to talk to me is a friend and he inspires me professionally. he talked to me about not letting thier behavior affect my emotions.
wait! did I just hear that right? was he using DB principals on me? oh no he didn't!lol!!!
I love this guy! I smiled and we got into a fantastic discussion on leading others with passion (which I have tons of) but remaining calm in the face of emotional situations. I guess the stress in my personal life has left me with little tolerance for childish behavior in a professional setting.
So I took my Executive Coaching with enthusiasm and thanked my friend for his help with the situation. In the end, I am the boss and the musicians can't say or do anything about the fact that I was upset with them. But I know that our relationship with our musicians is fragile (long story that goes back before me)and I don't want to distroy the work I have done the last 2 years in repairing the damage that was done so long ago.
But let me tell you all - musicians are a different breed. And if any of you reading this are a musician go ahead and admit it, cause you KNOW I am right.
Anyway, I guess I have changed in a lot of ways. some good some bad. I handled this sitch well, but I could have done it with more patience and care. Always learning, and I enjoy it.
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