Somebody post the 31 things you STOP doing in a sitch like this.

It helped me and is continuing to help. I know one of the top things is STOP all R talk. Validating is good but when R comes up for discussion stop unless she initiates.

M 38
W 50
S 9, D 6
T 12 M 10
W's 1st EA 4/2007 stopped after confront
W's 2nd EA 6/2010
Separated 7/2010 I bomb dropped 7/2010
MC 2/2011 - 3/2011
W bomb dropped 4/2011
Nothing filed or done