"The romance, the spark, the in love feeling we had when we were dating and when we were first married. Before we had the kids and all the worries and stress."
If your H is basing your reconciliation and his recommitment to the marriage on that "spark" and "in-love" feeling, then Mr. Bond is right, this is a false reconciliation because that feeling and that spark absolutely cannot last. That's a fairy tale.
Once your H comes to terms with that, you'll be in a good place to talk about the feelings you need from a long term committed relationship.
Although your H's words may feel good, I don't think it's the message you want.
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
