There is no one right way here Tam.

What we say and the guidance we give is cause we have been where you are and can look back and say ...Yup.

I agree with 25 if he is still with OW there is no point in letting him back in.

BUT

Thinking about what it might look like if you would is a good exercise.

There are all sorts of things to work through there.

Most of it self righteousness (at least for me)

You can't feel those things and really, REALLY work through them if someone else is filling the gaps you should be exploring by yourself.

Your life. Your happiness. Your responsibility.

Don't throw someone away for what they are not.

Rather love them for who they are.

Who they are?

Is your H who HE is yet?

Are you?

Your M is a different decision. A different choice. You CAN love someone and decide not to be married to them.

How can you love him truly? truly like they say in the story books? Like you said the day you married him?

Love is the way through this.

What does that mean to you?

Sometimes we get stuck hanging on to love.

When really it is setting it free. Giving it that sets us free.

Ahhh jeeeez....

There I go again.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am