I can relate to that feeling as well. When my ex-h and I split up, I despised him for all he did to me and our kids. It took a long time, and a lot of growing up on both of our parts, to get over that. We actually have a very amicable relationship now, although I look at him and can't believe I ever loved or shared my life with him. He's a stranger to me. Regardless, if it wasn't for him, I wouldn't have my kids, and I love my kids.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤